Here’s my list of 5 things that I wish I would have been told when I was diagnosed with cancer.
- Your relationships will change
Every single one of them. Relationships with your family and your friends. Your relationship with God. The people in your life that you hope will handle this well, won’t. Many people do not know how to support or talk to someone facing an illness or tragedy. Cancer is uncomfortable to talk about and that changes relationships. Some of your relationships and friendships will grow so much stronger than you ever anticipated. People you haven’t talked to in years will reconnect with you and people you barely know will show they care about you. You will be reminded that there are still good people in this world.
2. Your family’s lives will change
Your parents will be scared and upset, just as other members of your family will be. They will worry even when they are trying to smile and remain positive for you. They will be going through a process of change that you won’t understand yourself, just as you’re going through a process of change that they won’t understand themselves.
3. You’ll need distractions
Your friends will help with this. Movies, school, music, concerts, and talking about anything other than the “c” word are all good distractions. Don’t let your mind only focus on the bad things. Keep your mind busy and fill it with good things.
4. You will change
You will not be the same person that you once were. And that’s okay. Try to embrace it. You will feel more deeply, love more fully and your life will have new meaning. You won’t take any crap. You won’t dwell on the small things because you have freaking cancer(!).
5. It’s okay to feel what you need to feel
You will be angry and you will be bitter. And that’s okay. You will be overwhelmed and you will be scared. Also okay. Cancer is uncertain and scary and confusing. All of the emotions that you feel are okay. You’re human. If you need to cry, then cry. If you need to scream, then scream. Never let anyone tell you to push these things aside. It’s okay to feel them.
These are just some of the things that I wish I would have been told when I was diagnosed with cancer.
Thanks for reading,