I’m a six on the enneagram scale – which means that I’m a loyalist. Sixes are the most loyal to their friends and to their beliefs and they will “go down with the ship,” so-to-speak, and hang on to relationships of all kinds far longer than most other types. The reason sixes are so loyal to others is that they don’t want to be abandoned and left without support.
The dictionary defines loyalty as giving or showing firm and constant support or allegiance to a person or institution. Synonyms of loyalty are faithful, true, and devoted.
Finding out that I was a loyalist made me dive into the Word and see what God had to say about loyalty. I asked Him to define it for me. Here’s what I found: God established the very essence of loyalty through His covenant relationship with His people.
We see this in Deuteronomy 7:7-13 (MSG):
God wasn’t attracted to you and didn’t choose you because you were big and important—the fact is, there was almost nothing to you. He did it out of sheer love, keeping the promise he made to your ancestors. God stepped in and mightily bought you back out of that world of slavery, freed you from the iron grip of Pharaoh king of Egypt. Know this: God, your God, is God indeed, a God you can depend upon. He keeps his covenant of loyal love with those who love him and observe his commandments for a thousand generations. But he also pays back those who hate him, pays them the wages of death; he isn’t slow to pay them off—those who hate him, he pays right on time. So keep the command and the rules and regulations that I command you today. Do them. And this is what will happen: When you, on your part, will obey these directives, keeping and following them, God, on his part, will keep the covenant of loyal love that he made with your ancestors: He will love you, he will bless you, he will increase you.
Why did God choose Israel to be “a people for his treasured possession”? Not because of any inherent good quality in them, but because of His love for them and His faithfulness to the promise made to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. He chose Israel out of loyalty. God loved Israel, and Israel was called to respond to His love, by loving God and keeping His commandments.
Like Israel, we are chosen because of God’s love for us, even before anything we did. We are called to respond in obedience – by loving Him and keeping His commandments. It’s an act of loyalty. He loves us and we love Him back. He shows us loyalty and we mirror loyalty back to Him.
Along with this, in our relationships with one another, we are called to steadfast loyalty. We’re called to show to others the same love that the Lord shows us.
I’ve found myself learning a lot about loyalty in this season. What being loyal looks like for me in this season, through God’s eyes, and how does God require those in my life to be loyal to me? How am I required to mirror back God’s loyalty to others – and how are others required, in God’s eyes, to mirror loyalty back to me.
I’ll admit it: I was disappointed knowing that I had gained a “family” through my previous marriage, and only a handful of them reached out to me after my marriage ended, but yet they would follow along with me on social media to see what I was up to – but no words were spoken to me. Petty, sure… But it hurt me.
I asked God why (yet again), and He told me (yet again), that this wasn’t how He intended it. That He gave us community for a reason, and He modelled loyalty, and faithfulness for a reason. It’s not about choosing sides, or supporting one person over another, it’s about mirroring back the love that He has shown us.
We have the opportunity every single day to mirror back that same loyalty to others that He’s shown us.
Where do you fall on the enneagram scale? I’d love to know!
Peace and blessings,